Posts Tagged by Nonviolent Communication

(Rewind) Why Everyone Else Sucks

October 27, 2010 Posted by Issa under Think About It
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Whenever I do something that others don’t like, I have a good reason, of course. Whenever others do something I don’t like, there’s something wrong with them. Keep Reading

(Rewind) Our Inability to Predict Our Future Behvior

October 20, 2010 Posted by Issa under Think About It
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Awhile back, I wrote about honesty and Nonviolent Communication (NVC). I recently read an article about our tolerance for racisma that reminded me of an important NVC concept that’s a bit hard to grasp.

First, the NVC idea: It is not in anyone’s best interest for me to modify my actions/desires in order to cause or prevent another person from feeling a certain way. I am not responsible for their feelings, and I shouldn’t try to directly change them. I should do the things that I want to do, and the other person’s response is up to them. Keep Reading

Rewind – Honesty

March 25, 2010 Posted by Issa under Think About It
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A few days ago, Chris directed me to an article on Radical Honesty, perhaps because of my recent tell-all endeavor of laying my inner childhood thoughts bare for the world to see. Radical Honesty is a small movement headed up by Brad Blanton. I read one of his books years ago. I was struck by the simplicity and potential life-changing power of committing to always speaking honestly in personal relationships. I was also struck by the high degree of woo-woo espoused by this guy, and the bulk of the book didn’t appeal to me as much as the basic idea of speaking honestly. I was interested to read this article and revisit the idea.

Blanton advocates removing the filter between your brain and your mouth. If you’re in a conversation with someone and you’re bored out of your mind, he might suggest that you say it exactly how you’re thinking it. For example, “You’re boring the shit out of me right now with your inane little ramblings, and I’m going to go do something else.” Keep Reading

Rewind – Privacy

January 28, 2010 Posted by Issa under Think About It
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A while back I was driving through Florida and passed a house in a little town with a falling apart fence. That fence, for some reason, sparked a whole train of interesting thought for me. It’s a little convoluted, but let’s see if I can communicate the train of thought.

The fence was theoretically a privacy fence, but it was old and had lots of missing boards. It provided some lack of sight-line to the yard if you just glanced past it. But if you were actually looking, you could see the whole yard. Keep Reading